Get Clear on What You Want: The Secret to Attracting the Relationship You Want
Let’s face it, modern love can feel like navigating a maze—except there’s no map, and you keep running into dead ends. As a driven, successful woman, you’ve probably mastered juggling your career, fitness goals, and maybe even a side hustle. But when it comes to attracting your dream relationship, it might feel like all that ambition isn’t helping. Here’s the thing: it’s not about doing more. It’s about getting crystal clear on what you want and leaning into your feminine energy to receive it.
Think of this as a heart-to-heart conversation. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s break it down together. By the end of this, you’ll have the clarity and confidence to attract the love you want.
Why Clarity is the Foundation of Love
Imagine you’re at a restaurant with no menu. The waiter asks what you’d like, and you shrug, saying, “I don’t know, just bring me something.” You’re probably not going to end up with the meal of your dreams, right? Relationships work the same way. If you’re unclear about what you want, you’re more likely to settle for “meh” when you could have “omg-yes-this-is-it!”
Getting clear on what you want creates focus. It’s like putting in an order with the universe: This is what I desire, and I’m ready for it. Plus, when you know what you’re looking for, it’s easier to spot red flags early on and avoid wasting time on the wrong people.
Feminine Energy and the Art of Receiving
Let’s talk about your energy for a second. If you’re anything like I was, you probably spend most of your day in your “get-it-done” mode: planning, organizing, leading, and, let’s be real, crushing it. That’s your masculine energy in action, and it’s amazing for work… but not always for love.
Feminine energy is about being, feeling, and receiving. It’s not about “trying harder” but about softening, opening up, and trusting that love will come to you. When you lean into this energy, you become magnetic. You’re no longer chasing love; you’re inviting it.
Steps to Get Clear on What You Want
Ready to start attracting your dream relationship? Here’s how:
1. Identify Your Core Desires
Let’s dig deep here. It’s not just about wanting someone tall or funny—it’s about how you want to feel. Take a moment to reflect and ask yourself:
How do I want to feel in this relationship?
What values are non-negotiable for me?
What kind of emotional connection and support do I crave?
Write it all down. Be specific, but also give yourself permission to dream big. This isn’t about settling; it’s about creating a vision that excites you.
2. Release Limiting Beliefs
Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “All the good ones are taken,” or, “I’m too independent for a relationship”? Those sneaky little thoughts are limiting beliefs, and they’re blocking you from what you deserve.
Here’s a fun exercise: write down those beliefs and then challenge them. Ask yourself, Is this really true? Replace them with empowering affirmations like, “The right partner is out there for me,” or, “I am worthy of love just as I am.” Trust me, this small shift can work wonders.
3. Embrace Your Feminine Energy
This step is all about letting go of the hustle mindset (just for love—your career can keep it). Try these simple ways to connect with your feminine energy:
Feel your feelings: Spend time journaling or meditating. Let yourself feel without judgment.
Do what lights you up: Dance in your living room, take a bubble bath, paint, or just spend time in nature. Anything that brings you joy is a win.
Let go of control: Stop trying to “make” love happen. Lean back, trust the process, and let things unfold naturally.
4. Visualize and Feel Your Ideal Relationship
This is the magical part! Close your eyes and imagine your dream relationship. Picture the feeling of being loved, supported, and cherished. Take a moment to truly sit with this vision and feel how it would be to have your life partner by your side, loving and supporting you. Embrace this sensation in your body, in your pelvis, in your heart, and throughout your entire being. Let this energy flow and breathe this love into every cell of your body. Take all the time you need.
5. Stay Open and Receptive
Here’s where trust comes in. Once you’re clear on what you want, let go and trust that it’s on its way. Be open to opportunities—even the ones that might surprise you. Remember, love often shows up when we least expect it, but only if our hearts are open to receive it.
A Final Thought
Getting clear on what you want isn’t just about making a checklist of partner qualities. It’s about understanding your deepest desires, aligning with your feminine energy, and creating a life that feels so good that the right person can’t help but be drawn to you.
So, take a deep breath, reflect on what you truly want, and trust the process. Your dream relationship isn’t just possible—it’s closer than you think. And when it arrives, you’ll know it was worth the wait.
If you feel stuck or unsure where to start, know that you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. As a coach, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Whether you need guidance, clarity, or simply a compassionate and attentive ear, I’m here to help you attract the life and relationship you desire.
With Love and Light ❤️
Claire Cecile
